relate

Origin:

Latin relātus, superlative past participle of referre to carry back (see refer)

Carry what? Back where? To a place you've been before. That's the implication, that it's returning to a former place or previous time.
Relating to another person is trying to touch a familiar spot in them that you know from before they arrived in your presence. A place you already know
because now you are being carried back to something and that is only possible if you were already there. How are you being carried? On the wings of the dove.
On the filament of a silver thread, to quote Robert A. Johnson. It is the way we can touch another person. It is the way they can touch us. Being willing to hold
on to the thread is all that is necessary to be carried back.

In order to be in relationship I must be willing to be carried back to a place that is not right here and now. I must open up to looking at my history and carry them back to that place to show them where I have been and to see the commonality I have with them. To expose what got me here to another. Only in this
way are we able to make a connection, to relate. (Some 5th Step work here, but that's about our wrongs and this is bigger than that. This is about all of it.)

But going back there is not always easy to remember and not always pleasant. Nor is it an easy place to take a visitor. There are risks here and they
are not small. The implication of the word "carry" suggests weight; the weight of the load we haul when going back.
We must also be willing to be carried back to that place in them.

The word Namaste is a way of expressing it: "The gesture Namaste represents the belief that there is a Divine spark within each of us that is located in the heart chakra. The gesture is an acknowledgment of the soul in one by the soul in another." I read a book by
Ram Das years ago and in the front it says namaste means, "I honor that place in you that when you are in that place in you and I am in that place in me we are one."

In relating we are seeking to unite. We share with another from our treasury.